I think the real name requirement in the Code of Conduct is a mistake in an otherwise helpful CoC.
I think the mistake of requiring real names is in assuming that attackers will not want their attacks to be associated with their real names… but I think that is often not true, and that the attackers think their opinions are perfectly valid.
In addition, if you allow fake names, then it makes it easier for people who want to avoid attackers to do so by simply using a psuedonym. By requiring “proof” of abuse, you raise a barrier of entry to the more vulnerable people in the community, the very people whom this forum is supposed to include. What about people that are trying to avoid their abusive ex? What about celebrities that want to avoid attention? What about people that haven’t been abused but fear they might be?
Sure, this means that an abusive attacker can keep making new accounts to harass people… but we have community moderation for that, and it’s not like they can’t do that with the real name rule either… we’re not requiring ID to sign in, so they can still just make real-looking names.
Given that it’s basically impossible to verify real names anyway… giving lip service to real names only hurts those it is supposed to protect, IMO.